Show me a man that doesn't want to know how to talk to girls, and I'll show you a homosexual ("Not that there's anything wrong with that," as Seinfeld points out). And I don't mean simply talking to girls. Any idiot can ask a woman, "What time is it?" or, "Do you come here often?"
You want to know how to approach women the right way -- the way that conveys, "Yes, you engaged my senses and interest enough to talk to you, but now I want to see if you can live up to your physical beauty."
This doesn't mean you have to instantly start off the conversation with some deep psychological prodding, or put on some front about all the exquisite vineyards you've been to, while reading the latest thought-provoking masterpiece of the moment, and simultaneously admiring a wall full of pretentious paintings...
No. Like many aspects of dating, and social interactions in general, your demeanor and confidence are much more important than the verbs and adjectives that come rolling off your tongue -- or in some cases, clumsily sputtering through your teeth.
I See Her. I Want to Talk to Her. What Do I Do?
You've had your eye on her for a few minutes, but just subtle glances in her direction (God forbid she notice that you actually find her attractive!). As long as you haven't made eye contact yet, you're fine.
But, once your eyes lock with hers, it's "do or die...lonely." So many guys wait for the perfect opening, or even hope she's going to make the first move. How many times has that worked out for you?
Once your eyes meet, it's essential that you make your move. Otherwise, to her, you're clearly not confident enough to go after what you want. Plus, by acting instantly in that split second, and steadfastly following this rule, you won't have time to chicken out or think up a thousand reasons why you shouldn't take action.
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